We teach people how to treat us. Well, that’s what Dr. Phil says and I tend to agree with him on this point.
Many entrepreneurs and business owners have a tough time setting boundaries with their clients. It’s understandable. When you care about what you do it makes sense that you’d want to give your best.
However, this can become a problem when giving your best means that there is little time, energy, or money left for you!
Saying, “NO” can set a negative tone. Suddenly, the great relationship that you developed with your customer can come to a screeching halt.
Instead of saying a direct “NO” as in, “NO I can’t discount the price by 50%” or “No, I won’t be able to speed up the deadline from 30 days to 3 days!”, it is better to focus on what you can do.
In situations where you really want to scream, “NO WAY”, but know that it could be a deal breaker, take a breath. Now ask yourself, “What can I do or offer instead?” Once you have negotiated with yourself it’s time to present your counter offer to your client.
Your response to the request for a 50% discount could sound like this:
“To meet your budget, what we can do is look at which options you need right now and then start with that.”
Your response to the request for a shorter project deadline could sound like this:
“Obviously, we both want a high quality of work done for you, so let’s look at what part of the project needs to be done a.s.a.p.”
In business, it’s important that everyone’s needs are met, including yours!